The quality of your answer is dependent upon the quality of the question you ask.
One of the best reasons for working with a mentor or coach is for this reason: Having someone ask you different questions than what you are asking yourself. For one, it’s hard to really step out of our life when we are playing the starring role. Thus to have the ability to consider all aspects of a situation, it is imperative that you have someone outside of yourself who has that ability, and also doesn’t have an agenda.
Let’s be honest, even your friends or relatives who have the best intentions know they will be affected by your decision. And like it or not, it is human nature to protect our world, and maintain what is best for US. So any feedback or guidance you receive from them will first go through that subconscious filter. Having a complete outsider whose only gain is helping you to make a decision of what is in your greatest, highest good… is invaluable.
We typically don’t ask questions when we are afraid of the answer.
I think it’s fair to say, when someone is faced with a decision, they analyze the risk they have in making a change. Such as, “If I quit this job, how long will it take me to find a new one? How much money do I have in savings to carry me until I do? How will changing jobs impact my resume?” All of those are certainly reasonable considerations. However they are also all external, tangible deliberations. The question we typically avoid is the intangible, “What will the impact be on me; my psyche, my emotional well-being, my spirit, and my soul, if I choose to stay?”
For many people they wait until they hit rock bottom before making a change. Whether that’s in their relationship, their job, or where they live. Once we get to that point, we have often lost who we are, what we stand for, and the meaning our life is supposed to have. This is the story of my guest today, Dana Zarcone. I hope this episode inspires you to ask different questions―especially the ones that scare you. Those are the questions that matter, and have the highest likelihood of pointing you in the direction that you are meant to go.
In closing, I am going to change a well-known statement from, “Do something today that scares you” to “Ask yourself a question today, where the answer scares you.” It just may be the question that changes your life.
What will you lose, if nothing changes?
With Inspired Gratitude,
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