Challenges not only show us what we’re made of, but also who we are surrounded with…
We’ve all heard the phrase, “Wait till you wind up in a position, where you find out who your friends really are.” Yet, I don’t think any of us truly ever wishes we would wind up there. Unfortunately, every once a great while, that is exactly what happens… as it did for me last week. Now before I give you the impression that I was hit with a life ending diagnosis, or some lawsuit that would have me wrongfully imprisoned for the rest of my life… it wasn’t that. This was a personal emotional set back. The kicker is, I thought I had it all under control, and I was completely under everyone’s radar.
All this being said, let’s step back to last Monday when I was supposed to send my blog over to Skye Andrade, my chief editor, in order for it to be posted on Wednesday. (Suffice it to say, that didn’t happen). By Wednesday afternoon, Marvin, a dear friend, texted asking why it wasn’t posted. With some excuse, I said it would go out the next day. Finally, I sent it over to Skye… (And here’s how you know you have a true friend)… while she did edit it, it’s what followed that mattered. A few hours passed and she reached out to me again asking what was going on, as this particular blog, “wasn’t in my voice”. I can’t tell you the value that there is in having a friend that knows you so well, that they notice a misstep. In biofeedback, what you watch for, is the deviation from the “norm” no matter how subtle that deviation is. Having the ability to notice the slightest difference is what separates a friend from a best friend… a cold from cancer.
The Power of Observation…
Last week, without saying a thing… and I mean A THING I had these people (in the chronological order that I they came into my life), touch me in ways that I can’t put words to: Vickie, Steve, Deirdre, Erica, Skye, Michelle, Tammy, and Selena. Within a week – every one of them knew something was wrong and ran the gamut from calling from another country, interrupting meetings from a company they run, demanding a video skype chat, to quitting their job over friendship loyalty.
Fortunately, I don’t have many things go really south for me. But, this last week more than any other time, makes me step back and appreciate beyond measure the friends that I have and what they mean in my life. I could tell them every day how profoundly grateful I am for them, and it wouldn’t be enough.
For this week’s blog, I cannot more highly encourage you to be mindful of those around you and notice even the slightest bit of difference in their behavior or mood – that may be the only indication that something is askew. And if it is, taking the time to stop and ask how they are or how you can help may just make all the difference in the world. To my friends… you will never know how much I treasure and appreciate your friendship. Words will never do justice to the gratitude for how much I appreciate you in my life.
It’s what you choose to focus on and the meaning you assign it, that determines the quality of your life. With that, even this last week… I have a great life because I am so blessed to have the most incredible friends imaginable!
With the deepest gratitude for the power of true friendship,