We have made it to week three in our spring cleaning series! This means we have cleaned out the basement, moved the furniture out of the way to find those pesky dust bunnies, and now it’s time to clean those windows to ensure we can really see clearly. So let’s stick with this “window cleaning” metaphor for a moment. If both sides of the window are a complete mess, merely cleaning the outside of the window isn’t enough. In fact, just cleaning the outside, doesn’t mean you can see any better at all.
So how am I relating this to life? Let’s take a bad relationship for example, or one that isn’t serving us. Or for that matter, one that we think is a good relationship yet the person says they are no longer in love, and leaves. If our focus is solely on the other person—you know, “getting over them”—and we spend no time working through the effect of that relationship on us, the interior of that window is still a mess. Thus, it’s not just removing what’s on the outside (the bad relationship) but also, the impact of that relationship to our emotional well-being.
Today on The Game Changer Podcast, I speak with Paul Colaianni about this topic. He is the host of the podcast and website, The Overwhelmed Brain, and has certainly had his share of relationship setbacks. In this conversation, we talk about the ending of a heart breaking relationship, and not realizing we are taking that depression into the next one. You see when someone is on the outside trying to look into the window of our soul, if we haven’t done the necessary cleaning, it is impossible for them to see into who we really are. And every time someone says, “I will be happy when I find the right person,” what we are really saying is, “I want to find someone who can clean the inside of my window.” And the truth is, that work can ONLY be done by us.
I hope in this week’s look at what it really means to have a clean house, you are getting closer to removing every last thing that doesn’t belong, and are ready to create the life you were meant to live without any thing or any one holding you back. With white vinegar and a towel in hand, it’s time to remove that last bit of relationship residue, and allow someone to see the joyous and clutter free soul that you really are!
With clutter-free gratitude,